I didn’t understand why I have been unhappy lately. I feel that I am accomplishing a lot with school, work, and finally finding an apartment. I sat down and thought all day of why I just can’t seem to smile anymore. I miss my sister. She has been there for me when I was growing up. People always used to ask if I was her daughter because she was always taking care of me. I went to cheerleading practice, dance practice, school, grocery store, and even to work with her. I remember more memories with her then I do with my own mom and dad. She has been the one person I have looked up to my whole life. My sister was not only a mother figure in my life, but also my best friend. I remember when I would have a bad breakup with a boy and was crying, I would lay my head on her lap and she would run her fingers through my hair till I stopped crying.
I lived with my sister all throughout high school and even the past few months. I had my own apartment for a year when she wanted me to move in with her to save money and go back to school. I decided that it would be a good idea because I really need to be back in school. I moved with her in April and I have been homeless now for the past month. Her boyfriend and I got into it over Facebook. It seriously wasn’t a big issue until he had put his hands on me. I tried to talk to her, but she just told me that she doesn’t want to get involved. It hurt my feelings for my sister not to be there for me anymore. I can’t believe she decided to choose his side and allow him to treat me that way. I miss my sister and I feel lost without her.
Dear Racquel,
ReplyDeleteI could understand the love that you have for your loving sister who took great care of you at all times. In fact, you said she was a mother figure. I have brothers and a sister and could see the love and joy as we grow together. It is nice of your sister that took much care of you.
Relationship is a bond that, sometimes, rips us through when we come to know it is gone. The feelings and the emotions coming of it will be so strong that it will take time to heal or to be comforted. When you had a small issue which was not even serious and the way the things turned out to be is a little sad to know in spite of you trying to tell your sister who left uncared. This hurt you so much and that is the reason why you were not happy.
No matter what your sister did, show your unconditional love to her. May be you do not in what situation she is. Just talk to her and show more love. This is the time you should show more love and she will understand later in time.
- Tony Alapatt
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Racquel, I know just exactly what you're feeling. Some time back I had a similar situation happen to me, except that it wasn't my sister but my best friend whom I knew almost my entire life. We were closer than many actual siblings out there. I loved her deeply and I never thought that anything could come between us. Until similarly to your situation, her boyfriend and I got into an argument, which yes, turned out to be bigger than it actually was.
ReplyDeleteShe too said that she didn't want to get involved and though she said that she wasn't picking sides she leaned towards him. And by the time I knew, slowly but surely I lost her.
It's amazing how big of an influence a guy can have on a girl. I thought that by giving them, or rather her space and time things will come around, but that wasn't the case. It has been about six years since I last spoke with my friend and I can't even express how much I miss her. It's as if a part of me is missing.
The only thing I can tell you is that no matter what stay in touch with your sister, cause whether it's a week or a month the problem will eventually resolve. No guy is worth the relationship that you have with your sister and sooner or later she will realize that.
So, hang in there :)